Lisa Perini - Perini Ranch

Lisa Perini - Perini Ranch

Hailing from Buffalo Gap, Texas, we can’t wait for you to meet Lisa Perini. Lisa and her husband Tom are the owners and operators of Perini Ranch Steakhouse. Together they have created one of the most beautiful dining destinations on their working ranch in West Texas. Keep reading to hear more from Lisa and how this “Barbecue Wife” is loving and living life to the fullest.

Modesty Vidal - Valentina's Tex Mex BBQ

Modesty Vidal - Valentina's Tex Mex BBQ

Combining their love of Food, Tradition, and Family is what makes Valentina’s Tex Mex BBQ in Austin, Texas tick. Meet Modesty Vidal, a big part of the “family” behind Valentina’s Tex Mex BBQ. This Barbecue Wife is a mama to three, a busy entrepreneur, and the kind of gal you just want to hang out with every chance you get.

Modesty will be the first to tell you it takes a village to keep up with their busy day to day, and what a great village of family she has surrounded herself with.

Kim Bexley - Snow's BBQ

Kim Bexley - Snow's BBQ

Once upon a truly how this story should begin. By now, you might have heard of the Texas BBQ joint Snow's BBQ nestled in the quaint town of Lexington, Texas only open on Saturdays... and perhaps you've caught wind of the Cinderella like story of the famed Snow's BBQ Pitmaster Tootsie Tomanetz.

Well, today, on the heels of celebrating their 15 year anniversary of "Smokin The Good Stuff," we want to introduce you to another key piece of the Snow's BBQ story, and her name is Mrs. Kim Bexley otherwise known around the BBQ Joint as the "Boss's Boss." Kim is married to owner and operator Kerry Bexley, and this Barbecue Wife puts the "family" in the family business. 

Keep reading to learn a little bit more about a story you might have thought you already knew everything about. Introducing the lovely Kim Bexley.

Mary Gatlin - Gatlin's BBQ

Mary Gatlin - Gatlin's BBQ

Happy New Year! I could not think of a more inspiring person to introduce you to as we kick off this blank page in a new year. This “Barbecue Wife” is the definition of Southern Hospitality and perhaps one of the kindest souls I’ve met along this adventure in Barbecue. I’m so very pleased to introduce you to Miss Mary Gatlin of Gatlin’s BBQ in Houston, Texas. Through Faith, Family, and the love of Barbecue…she’s helped build a life worth living and loving in Houston, Texas. 

Misty David - Cattleack Barbeque

Misty David - Cattleack Barbeque - Photo by: Wyatt McSpadden

Misty David - Cattleack Barbeque - Photo by: Wyatt McSpadden

Partners in business and partners in life, this story rings true in many Texas Barbecue joints across the Lone Star State. For Misty & Todd David, it was a story that evolved later in life from a passion that led them to a top spot on the coveted 2017 Texas Monthly Top 50 Barbecue list.

Meet Misty David, one half of the duo from this darling of Dallas, Cattleack Barbeque. If you have had the pleasure of stopping by, you most likely have met Misty as she greeted you with a cheerful smile as you shuffled your tray of Smoked Meats down her counter line.

Keep reading to learn more about our visit with Misty David, in this edition of “Tales of a Barbecue Wife.”

Interview by: Catherine Stiles

Portraits by: Wyatt McSpadden


Name: Misty David

Cattleack Barbeque- Dallas, Texas

Age:  53 well, in December I'll be 53


Tell me a little bit about where you are from & where you grew up: 

I grew up in Cincinnati Ohio. It was a nice place to grow up because I lived kind of close to the Ohio river which divides Ohio & Kentucky.

I spent my childhood boating on the river with my family. I learned to water ski and I guess that's where I learned to love the outdoors. It was very pretty in the summertime, and being from the Midwest we enjoyed all four seasons there. The winters were really cold. I actually saw the Ohio river freeze a few times. My teenage years were late 70's and early 80's. We went to the roller skating rink every weekend, enjoyed drive-in movies, and all the kids in my neighborhood gathered at my house and we hung out playing pool and swimming in the summertime.  I later began riding horses (Tennessee Walkers) and spent every weekend riding them at East Fork State Park. I miss that more than anything. Those were good times.

Tell me a little bit about your family. What did your parents do? What influence did they have on you becoming the woman you are today? 

My dad was a truck driver for a big trucking company and he was a union man. Very strong and independent, and he had the best personality. He could fix anything!  We had a detached garage in back and he was always in there working on lawnmowers, cars, boats or something. I would spend my days out there with him listening to country music and tinkering around in the garage with him when he was home.

He taught me how to use tools and let me help him all the time. My mom was a homemaker and she volunteered at our school in the school nurses office when we we young. She was always home with us after school and she made sure we had 3 home cooked meals every day and we ate as a family together every night. I guess I got my accountability from her. 

 What were you like as a child? What did you want to be when you grew up? 

I am the oldest of 3 girls. I loved being outside and excelled in school. I had my first job at 15. I became very independent and was on my own at 18. I thought I was going to be a flight attendant and see the world. I knew from a very young age that I was not going to stay in Ohio. I have always been the type to want to see the world and experience as much as I could. I always wished I lived by the ocean. The flight attendant thing didn't last very long and I ended up in sales. I have a very outgoing personality, so I did pretty well in sales.

How did you meet your husband? How did you both land in the barbecue business?

I took a job with a large flooring company to run their carpet maintenance division. They sent me to Denver Colorado for training and my husband was there to teach a class about commercial carpet maintenance because he had a commercial carpet and upholstery cleaning business here in Dallas. His company was partnered with the company I was working for. I spent 2 weeks learning from him and others in Denver, came back to Cincinnati and worked for about a year until I decided I didn't like it very much. When I resigned, Todd got word of it and he offered me a position here in Dallas to work for him. So, I came to Dallas and we began working as a team. We ended up falling in love, got married and grew that business together. 

Todd had always "BBQ'd" as a hobby. We started having a free BBQ lunch once a month for our customers which became a huge hit. Todd would cook Brisket, Ribs, Turkey complete with all the sides and peach cobbler for them and they loved it. When we sold that business we thought we would start up a BBQ catering business and cater to the corporate clients that we had developed relationships with. After a couple of years dabbling around with that we found the location we now have and started opening for lunch only on Fridays. That grew to Thursday and Friday and now here we are. It all just kinda evolved for us. Meant to be I guess.

Misty David - Cattleack Barbeque - Photo by: Wyatt McSpadden   

Misty David - Cattleack Barbeque - Photo by: Wyatt McSpadden


Tell me a little bit about the business of barbecue.  What do you think people might not know about the day in the life of Misty and your role in the business? 

Well to be honest, I'm not involved in the day to day cooking part of the business. Todd and I learned early on that to be as cohesive as we are together in business that he has to do his thing, and I do mine. We don't cross into one another's lane. He runs the kitchen, comes up with the recipes and manages the staff. I do the marketing, recruiting, manage all of the pre-orders and create our weekly email that goes out to all of our customers. On the days we are open for lunch I am the smiling face that greets our customers when we open the doors, and I am the girl that cashes them out and tells them how much we appreciate them. I love shaking their hands and getting to know them by name. I feel like every week my friends come over to eat with us. That makes it fun you know? 

What is the best thing about being in the Barbecue Business? What do you enjoy the most? Any funny stories you want to share about being in the business? 

Well, for me the best thing about the BBQ business is that everyone loves to eat great food, and we have really great food, so that excites people. I enjoy listening to folks tell their friends that they have brought to Cattleack for the first time how good the food that they're about to eat is. I love to see the look on their faces when they see a big Beef Rib on someone's tray. I also love it when Todd and I go out to dinner or something and someone comes up to him and says "man your BBQ is the best stuff in town". To see Todd smile and thank them is the best feeling in the world. 

Obviously not everyday is a fun filled adventure in the craft barbecue business. What is the worst thing about being in the barbecue business? 

I think the worst thing about being in the business is that everyone's comparing you to something else. Some folks just can't be pleased no matter what. That kinda stuff bothers me a little. 

You are a mom, which is also a big job. How do you juggle being a mom and an entrepreneur in the family business? Any advice you would like to give to working moms in general and making it all happen everyday

I had it pretty easy really. We only have 1 child and he is from Todd's first marriage.  He was 7 when Todd and I got married so I've not been through the whole infant thing. Raising Riley was pretty easy because he is so much like Todd. Very smart, independent and easy going. I took him to and from school and attended all of his sporting activities. Todd held the business down, no problem. Only having 1 child made it easy I think. I don't know how I would have managed if there would have been more. Being a mom is the toughest job on earth, and the most fulfilling. I guess if I were to give any advice it would be to put the child first, they are gone so fast.

What do you do for fun? Favorite Vacation spots you would like to share?

I love to swim, ride my bike and plant flowers.  I also love animals very much so we have two dogs. Our dogs are a huge part of our lives now since Riley is on his own. We also love to shoot guns, big and small. On the weekends we go to a shooting center and shoot moving targets and we really enjoy that. When we travel we love to go to places where we can ride horses. One of our favorite places to go is the Alisal Ranch in Santa Barbara, California, and we love Hawaii. 

When you are not eating at Cattleack BBQ where would you send someone visiting your town?

Oh wow, Dallas has so much to offer! Todd is such a foodie, we eat at so many places. Some of our favorites include Yao Fuzi for Chinese food, Bob's Chophouse, Edoko for sushi and Cadillac Pizza in McKinney Texas.

When you actually get the chance…what do you do with girlfriends on a “Night Out” on the town?

 Believe it or not, I don't go out on the town unless it's with Todd! 

Favorite Musician?

I am the biggest PRINCE fan you'll ever meet. I have loved his music ever since I was 13 or 14. I still listen to it every day.  

If you were to empty out your purse on the table right now, what would we find?

Five or 6 lipsticks, my wallet, pens, gum, a brush, aspirin, my cell phone, reader eyeglasses (2 pairs) one for me and one for Todd. (Maybe a dog chewy)

Is there a local or national charitable cause that you support? (I’m a big supporter of shedding light on to charitable causes people just might not know fire away).

 I am a huge animal activist. I contribute to PETA, ASPCA, The Humane Society....all of the animal welfare organizations. We recently donated to the Salvation Army for the Hurricane Harvey victims.


We close every interview with a favorite recipe that you would like to share. Its a chance for all of "us" to take a little bit of "you" home with us. There is nothing more transcending than swapping a recipe from one friend to another. So, from your favorite family recipe to a party favorite, we would love to share one of your favorites.

Ok, I am certainly not the best cook, Todd can vouch for that!  One of Todd and Riley's favorites is a South Beach Recipe I make called Steak Dianne. So here it goes....

"Misty David's" Steak Dianne


(4) center cut tenderloin medallions (I use filet mignon)

1/2 cup of Parkay squeeze margarine

1/2 cup of finely chopped shallots

1/2 cup of sliced mushroom caps

1/4 teaspoon of minced garlic

2 teaspoons mustard powder

3 tablespoons Worcestershire sauce

2 tablespoons lemon juice

3 tablespoons of chopped parsley

1 tablespoon of fresh chopped chives 

1 tablespoon of coarsley ground black pepper & a little salt


Put your plates into a warmed oven so you can plate the steaks when they are ready.

Place each steak between 2 pieces of waxed paper or place into a gallon size Ziplock baggie and pound the steaks one at a time with a meat mallot until they are about 1/2" thick. Dry the steaks with paper towels and then sprinkle them with salt and pepper.

In a large chafing dish over medium heat melt 3 tablespoons of the Parkay margarine. Increase the heat to medium high, and cook each steak for 2 minutes on each side. Remove to a plate.

Lower the heat to medium again and melt the remaining margarine. Add  the shallots, mushroom caps and the garlic and cook, stirring for 1 minute. Add the mustard and the Worcestershire sauce and mix well. Return the steaks to the pan, and cook to medium rare (or your preferred doneness). Place the steaks on warm serving plates leaving the other stuff in the pan. Add the lemon juice, parsley, and chives to the pan and mix thoroughly. Cook for about 30 seconds or just until warm and then our the mixture on top of the steaks and serve with your vegetable of choice.

Thats a wrap!

Thank you Misty for sharing a little bit of "you" with all of us. Our adventures are taking us far and wide across the Lone Star State to meeting so many different, dynamic, and wonderful "Barbecue Wives" from so many different backgrounds. One theme so far rings true, all of these women are doing what they love and it shines through the moment you meet them. 

Till Next Time!



Stacy Franklin - Franklin Barbecue

Stacy Franklin - photo by: Lauren Slusher

Stacy Franklin - photo by: Lauren Slusher

Interview by: Catherine Stiles

Portraits by: Wyatt McSpadden & Lauren Slusher

You know the story well, or so you think you do. Meet Stacy Franklin. You might recognize her as half of the equation to the dynamic duo that is Franklin Barbecue, but did you know that she’s also a mom, a "Mrs. Fix-it," and an aspiring gardener?  ...and she has a story all of her own to tell.

Tell me a little bit about where you are from and where you grew up? I was born and raised in Amarillo, Texas and I lived there until I was 19, when I moved to Austin. 

What did your parents do? What influence did they have on you in becoming the woman you are today?  My parents are hard working people. My Mom worked for the VA hospital in Human Resources for most of her career. My Dad had lots of different careers until he landed in teaching toward the end of my childhood. My Dad always did odd jobs to make extra money. It snowed yearly in Amarillo, and when we had a snow day, we usually borrowed our grandfather’s snow blower and we went out to make money clearing driveways. Sometimes he cleaned the windows at Weinersnitzel. If he found someone taking down an old fence, he would make outdoor furniture with the old pickets and try to sell it. That entrepreneurial spirit and hard work is probably the most important thing I learned from my parents. 

What were you like as a child? What did you want to be when you grew up? I was the kid that was always being told that they had "an adult sense of humor" or that I was "an old soul". I actually have no idea what that means, but I think that a lot of times I loved sitting around and listening to adults converse. Adults would also tell me that I should be a comedian when I grew up. I was a goober. 

How did you land in Austin, Texas? After high school, I stuck around Amarillo and tried my hand at community college. It wasn't the thing for me and I dropped out. I would take road trips to Austin to visit my friend Claudia who was attending the University of Texas. We were talking on the phone one day and she said that one of her roommates was moving out and that she needed to find someone. I moved to Austin two weeks later. 

Stacy Franklin & daughter Vivian at Franklin Barbecue. Photo by Wyatt McSpadden

Stacy Franklin & daughter Vivian at Franklin Barbecue. Photo by Wyatt McSpadden

Tell me about the business of barbecue. Obviously everyone knows the story of you and Franklin Barbecue, but what do you think people might not know about the day in the life of Stacy Franklin and your role in the family business? Oh gosh. So much stuff behind the scenes. Nothing too exciting, but we try and keep up with employee needs, email requests, accounts payable, accounts receivable, merchandise, insurance, new projects, compliance, permits, preorders, press requests, website needs, communication, coordinating repairs, blah blah blah. It is a lot of work.

What is the best thing about being in the Barbecue business? Yesterday, we had a group of 6 business men who waited in line. At the end of their meal, they wanted to see if they got in line tomorrow at 2pm, if the line would be short. There are not a lot of restaurants that have people planning their meal for the following day, before they even leave the premises. That is pretty cool to me.

What is the worst thing about being in the Barbecue business?  Hmm. Its pretty hard to complain....but I manage. Haha. I think the thing that annoys me, is when I go to the bank and they ask me why I didn't bring them any food. People kind of expect you to bring food or carry bbq around in your purse.

You are a mom, which is also a full time job. How do you juggle being a mom and an entrepreneur? (I know it is a job in itself just managing the demanding schedules of both.) Any advice you can give as a working mom making it all happen everyday? The hardest thing for me is turning off the computer at 5, and not thinking about what I did not have time to finish. I want to be present with my daughter once we get home, so I try my best not to do emails or work after I am home in the evening. These days some folks expect that everyone replies to emails in the evenings or on the weekends, so it is hard for people to just wait to get a response for a few days. Setting boundaries in order to have good work / life balance is important. It is always challenging to make time for yourself for rest or exercise, but it is so important.

What do you do for fun? Gardening is my current jam. I grow cucumbers, tomatoes, herbs and native plants, and I love a good project. I think it is very important for a lady to have her own tools. I have my own drill, hacksaw, speed square, measuring tape, shovels, ladder, drill bits and more. If I want to start a project, I want to be able to do it all myself, with very little help from my husband. I know he is busy and it gives me great satisfaction to not have to ask for help.

If you were going to give one piece of advice to a young person who wanted to get into the business of barbecue or just "food" in general, what would that be? Just figure it out. I figured out how to run a business by doing almost everything myself. It is hard to delegate a task to someone else, if you don't know how to do it yourself. Figure it out and make mistakes. Taking things one step at a time makes a large daunting task seem more manageable. You heard how to eat an elephant, right?

What's next for Stacy Franklin? If you could do something outside of the barbecue business, what would that be? I have lots of different things I would like to do someday. Real estate, nail salon, vintage outdoor furniture store, cute non slip shoe manufacturer, organic confetti company, boozy snow cone stand, make organic chinchilla wash. Some of these are more serious than others, but these ideas give me a big smile. 

When you actually get the chance...what do you do with girlfriends on a "Night Out" on the town? We almost always meet at a favorite restaurant or try out something new. One of my girlfriends is a pescitarian, so it is fun to eat out with her and try all the fish and veggie options on the menu. And wine...lots of wine.

When you have guests in town are there any local restaurants, shops, or favorite attractions you like to direct them to? I normally leave that to my husband, he loves to make restaurant lists for people. 

Favorite Musician? I mostly stick to older music. If you asked me to put on some music right now, I would probably put on an Al Green / Tupac / Donna Summer / Chicago radio station.

If you were to empty out your purse on the table right now, what would we find? Lots of receipts, sunglasses, eyeglasses, lip gloss in various shades, smooshed breakfast bars, loose spare change, 1 pen.

Is there a local or national charitable cause that you support and would like more people to be aware of? We really like The SAFE Alliance. A merger of Austin Children's Shelter and SAFE Place.

We end each interview with a piece we can share from your kitchen to the readers home kitchen. Think of it as sharing a recipe card from one good friend to another. What is a favorite recipe you like to share from your home kitchen when you are entertaining with friends and family?

“STACY’S FAMOUS” Green Goddess Dip

This is a recipe I make when we have friends over and we want to have something to snack on while Aaron grills dinner. I found this in Saveur magazine a few years back, and it goes great with any sliced veggies. I sub out different herbs, depending on what I have in my garden or what I can find in the grocery store. Substituting dill for the tarragon is my favorite thing to do, or using greek yogurt in place of the sour cream. 


2 tbsp. parsley

2 tbsp. dill

2 tbsp. scallions

2 tbsp. chives

1⁄2 cup mayonnaise

2 tbsp. sour cream

2 tbsp. white wine vinegar

Salt and pepper to taste

Slice veggies for dipping


Combine herbs in a food processor and blend until a smooth paste forms. Add mayonnaise, sour cream and vinegar to the herb mixture and blend until smooth ; season with salt and pepper.



Thank you Stacy for sharing a little bit of the amazing that makes you "you."

I crossed paths with Stacy about 6 years ago in this crazy little barbecue universe, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy our visits on our "ladies who lunch" dates. It’s nice to get to know people for who they are & not for what they do during their "9 to 5.". She’s one awesome lady, and I hope you feel a little more connected after reading this Tale of a Barbecue Wife.

Till Next Time!




Mallory Robbins - Evie Mae's Barbecue

Interview By: Catherine Stiles

Portraits by: Wyatt McSpadden

In this first edition of "Tales of a Barbecue Wife," we caught up with Mallory Robbins co-owner of Evie Mae’s Barbecue in Wolfforth, Texas. Mallory & her husband Arnis Robbins are juggling it all and making it look easy. We thought we’d get up close and personal with this Barbecue Wife as she walks us through a “day in the life” as she splits her time between being a mom of two and a small business owner.

Keep reading, as Mallory gives us a special treat at the end of the interview you can take with you. You'll soon see why we love catching up with Mallory every chance we get.

Name: Mallory Robbins      Age:  34

Tell me a little bit about where you are from, where you grew up: I was born in Amarillo, TX, but moved to Clovis, NM when I was young.  Clovis is a small town only a couple of miles from the Texas border.  It's an agricultural, railroad and Air Force base town.  I grew up "in the country" and have the best memories of playing outside and being on my grandparent's farm. 

Your family, what did your parents do? What influence did they have on you becoming the woman you are today? My mom was a school teacher and my dad has been in the beef packing business for 30-plus years. My parents were divorced when I was young.  My mom always had "side jobs" besides her school teaching career.  She cleaned houses, decorated cakes, you name it.  I learned from her that if you work hard and take care of people, you'll always have what you need.  She worked really hard to take care of me and my siblings and I think that has had a huge impact on my work ethic. 

What were you like as a child? What did you want to be when you grew up? I was a major tomboy.  I loved being outside, at the lake, fishing, etc.  I don't remember really wanting to be anything specifically, just that I wanted to be outside.

How did you land in Wolfforth, Texas? How did you meet your husband? Arnis and I met when we were kids.  We grew up in neighboring towns and had mutual friends.  We reconnected after college and both moved out to Arizona.  We ended up getting married, started a landscaping company, had our first baby, and realized pretty quick that we needed to be back "home" and closer to family.  We sold our business and got back to Texas as fast as we could.  Wolfforth is just outside of Lubbock.  Most of our family is within a two hour drive.  The people here are so welcoming and nice. 

Mallory & Arnis Robbins - Evie Mae's Barbecue

Mallory & Arnis Robbins - Evie Mae's Barbecue

How did you get into the barbecue business? What do you think people might not know about the "day in the life" of Mallory and your role in the business? My husband, Arnis, started experimenting with barbecue when we lived in Arizona.  We owned a landscaping company and it was very stressful for him.  He grew up on a farm and he was always tinkering with stuff and wanted to build his own pit.  I think teaching himself to barbecue was a therapeutic hobby at first.  I thought he was crazy.  Barbecue isn't a big thing out in AZ.  We started cooking for neighbors and friends.  Then, he bought a little food trailer and we decided we would try selling bbq on Fridays and see how it went.  We just set up in front of an old golf course on the side of the road.  Things got busy pretty fast and we really wanted to move closer to family.  We decided to sell our business, get a nicer food trailer, and relocate to Lubbock and try this bbq thing full-time.  For the first year, It was just me and him.  He cooked the meat and I did all the sides and desserts.  It was stressful, but fun.  Over the past 2 years, we've added another baby and moved from the food trailer to a brick and mortar. 

People may not know that I manage our social media.  I really enjoy taking pictures of food and working at the restaurant as much as I can.  I love it there.  It's hard to step back and let other people take care of things so I can be with our kids.  We have awesome employees and I'm so thankful to have such amazing help.   

What is the best thing about being in the barbecue business? What do you enjoy the most?  The best thing about being in the barbecue business is the people.  Not just the customers, they're great too, but the actual people involved in Barbecue all over Texas.  I feel like we are part of this awesome group of people who support and root for each other.  And not just the joint owners, but the bloggers, photographers, and foodies.  It's really cool.  I feel like I could reach out to just about anyone in the business for advice. 

I don't do any of the cooking anymore, so I really enjoy hanging out during service and chatting with customers.  I also love helping serve food and even cleaning tables during a busy lunch.   

Obviously not every day is an adventure in this business. Any funny stories you would like to share? A funny story I could share is from a day I was at the grocery store.  A guy put his fist up in the air and yelled way down the isle "Hey!  I love your food!!".  It was so funny.  It's funny to be recognized places and have people go out of their way to say hi.  I don't think I'll ever get used to that!

What is the worst thing about being in the barbecue business?  The worst thing about the barbecue business is definitely the hours.  It was really hard in the beginning (and still is sometimes) having a "pit master" husband.  There are times when he won't see the kids for a few days at a time.  That doesn't happen as much anymore, thanks to having great employees. 

Any stories you would like to share about a bad day you just had to laugh about? (I always say, you have to have a good sense of humor to be in this business and laugh, or it can be a challenging thing to be in day in and day out) I have quite a few stories about "bad" days that I could share!  Haha.  It's tough when we get a bad review online.  We take it pretty personally because this business is so special to us and we work so hard.  I'm getting better about just laughing off the negative comments and knowing that you can't please everyone, even though we try!  All we can do is serve the best food we can and take good care of people and hope that they spread the word and come back to see us. 

You are a mom, which is also a full time job. How do you juggle being a mom and an entrepreneur in the family business? Any advice you would like to give to working moms in general and making it all happen everyday? Having a support system is huge.  If it wasn't for my mom and my mother-in-law's help over the past 2 1/2 years, we definitely wouldn't be where we are today.  I've been fortunate enough to be able to take a step back over the past year after our son was born to "stay at home" thanks to some awesome employees.   

I think it's really important to be realistic about what you can get done in a day.  There are days that I feel like Super Mom and everything is awesome.  Dinner is made, house is clean, kids are happy.  But, then there are days that I'm lucky if I even take a shower, I feel like I can't get anything done, and my 4 year old hates me.  But, I try really hard to be realistic and not too hard on myself.  

I think it's important to say "No" sometimes.  A fellow Barbecue Wife gave me that advice.  Give yourself some grace.  Try not to compare yourself to other moms that seem like they always have it together.  They don't. Don't believe everything you see.  Take some time for yourself.  I'm particularly bad about this, but I am trying to make myself more of a priority.  Your mental health as a mom (working outside of the home or not) is so important. 

What do you do for fun? Favorite Vacation spots you would like to share? Having my husband home from work, hanging out on the back porch and watching the kids play and not having to be anywhere or do anything is the most fun lately.  Don't get me wrong, I'd love a good date night with him with no kids and no rush.  Maybe someday soon!  We also love going to antique stores.  Just looking around for treasures is always fun.

Arnis and I went to Hawaii on our Honeymoon and I can't wait to go back.  A beach with no plans is my idea of a perfect vacation. 

When you are not eating at Evie Mae’s where would you send someone visiting your town? Definitely some of the local wineries, The West Table for a nice dinner, or The Blue Light for live music. 

 When you actually get the chance…what do you do with girlfriends on a “Night Out” on the town? I'm embarrassed to say that I haven't had a "girls night" in quite a while.  I love live music and a good, cold beer.  Anything just hanging out and talking about life is great with me.  A patio is a plus

Favorite Musician? This is a hard question to answer because I have so many "favorites" in different genres of music.  I may listen to The Statler Brothers one day, and Tupac the next.  My mom is a huge lover of music so I was exposed to everything growing up.  I love Willie Nelson, Michael Jackson, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Prince.   Pat Green is also one of my favorites.  He was just starting out when I was in high school and his music and song writing started my serious love of Texas country music.  I have seen him in concert probably 10 times.  There isn't a single song of his that doesn't spark some sort of memory from High school or college.

If you were to empty out your purse on the table right now, what would we find? Oh, yikes.  You would find diapers, wipes, snacks, lipstick, probably some trash.  Hand sanitizer.  I'm a huge germaphobe.  My little girl loves being outside and all things Nature, so there's a possibility of finding rocks, even bugs. 

Is there a local or national charitable cause that you support that you would like more people to be aware of? (I’m a big supporter of giving back where you can. Just simply spreading awareness is a great way to give back). I don't currently support any one in particular, however, if you're in the Lubbock area and looking at donating time or money, The Carpenters Church or the South Plains Food Bank are a great place to start. 

We are going to end each interview with a piece that we can share from your kitchen to the readers home kitchen. There is nothing more transcending than sharing a good recipe card from one friend to another. What is a favorite recipe that you like to share with friends/family?

Evie Mae's Green Chile Cheese Grits

2 cups corn grits/polenta

6 cups milk

4 Tablespoons of butter

1-2 cups of cheddar cheese

8 oz of frozen, chopped green chile (substitute jalapeno if you'd like)

Salt and Pepper to taste

Combine milk and butter and bring to a simmer/soft boil.  Slowly whisk in the dry grits and continue stirring until they start to thicken up.  Reduce heat and add cheese and green chile.  Continue stirring until desired thickness and add salt/pepper. 

If they get too thick you can add a little extra milk or butter. This is a great side dish or even a base for grilled shrimp or sausage.

We want to thank Mallory for taking the time out of her busy schedule to share a little bit about her adventures as a "Barbecue Wife." Next time you are in the Lubbock, TX area stop by and tell her "Hello." 

Our goal is to introduce you to some of the amazing women that we meet along the Barbecue Wife trail as often as we can. 

Till next time!


P.S. If you know a "Barbecue Wife" we should get to know, shoot us an email at We'd love to hear from you.